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Boston Dating Ideas that are High
on Romance, Low on Price
Boston is well-known for its sky-scraping
restaurants and the variety of theater and
other entertainment it provides, making
it the perfect place for a date. But for
those who are worried about the high price
that a little romance might impose, Boston
also provides countless opportunities to
let love blossom without spending a lot
of money. From museums to cafes to out-of-the-way
places, Boston has inexpensive and romantic
ideas for dates, ranging from the traditionally
romantic to the truly unique. Here are
The Boston Insider's top suggestions
for sharing a special experience with your
sweetie without busting your budget.
Boston Common Ice Skating
It is hard to imagine anything more romantic
than ice skating on the
Boston Common,
a light snow falling around you, and the
person you love standing by to help you
up after the inevitable fall. The Boston
Common Park One Skating Facility is an outdoor
rink and is open seven days a week, weather-permitting.
For those with little skating experience,
the facility also offers lessons. For information,
call (617) 635-2197.
The Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum
Can't afford a romantic getaway to the tropics
to escape Boston's brutal winter months?
Then head to the
Isabella Stewart Gardner Museum,
which offers a beautiful place for you and
your loved one to warm up and think of spring.
Enjoy exploring the wonderful interior garden
and the fabulous art collection together.
If you can, time your visit to coincide
with one of the Museum's weekend concerts.
Mike's Pastry
"Sweets for your sweet," as they say and
Mike's Pastry in the North End is the perfect
place to find them. The Italian shop offers
everything from marzipan to pizza to cappuccino
at relatively low prices. The shop can become
very crowded with people ordering and the
few small tables are often filled, but Mike's
Pastry is the perfect take-out to share
after a romantic dinner. Finding the shop
can be difficult but provides the opportunity
to roam the narrow streets and quaint storefronts
of the
North End.
To get to Mike's Pastry: follow the
Freedom Trail
from Quincy Market. Cross over Cross St.
and go up Salem Street for one block. Take
a right onto Parmenter St. and follow for
one block. Take a left on Hanover Street.
Mike's Pastry is a block and a half up on
the left, at No. 300. For information call
(617) 742-3050.
South Street Diner
Whether you were part of the 1950s or just
wish you were, the South Street Diner provides
the perfect combination of rock-n-roll,
frappes, and nostalgia. Open twenty-four
hours a day, the small diner offers everything
from breakfast hot off the grill to the
raspberry-lime rickies of yesterday to its
signature chocolate mousse cake. The five
booths offer cozy seating or sit at the
counter for a real blast from the past.
Music of the era provided by a jukebox and
the life size James Dean adorning the bathroom
door lend to the fifties feeling. If you
are longing for the days of sock hops and
milkshakes for two, take a date to the South
St. Diner, located on the corner of Kneeland
and South Streets. To get there, follow
Atlantic Ave. from South Station to South
Street. Take a right and follow it a block.
The South St. Diner is on the right, painted
blue with the classic diner design.
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Coolidge Corner Theatre
Taking a date to one of the stadium-sized,
chain movie theaters that have saturated
the Boston area is hardly a romantic gesture.
Taking someone to the Coolidge Corner Theatre,
on the other hand, shows that you care enough
to put some thought into planning a special
evening. The building was converted from
a church to a movie house in 1933 and the
original art deco ornamentation still remains,
making for a romantic atmosphere. The Theatre
shows many foreign, independent, and art
films so it is not the place to go for the
latest release, but it is perfect if you
are looking for something original to do.
The Coolidge Corner Theatre Foundation also
sponsors many film series and events, so
be sure to call for a schedule. To get to
the theater, take the Green C line to the
Coolidge Corner stop in Brookline. Walk
down Harvard St. and the theater will be
on the left, at No. 290. Be aware that the
upstairs theater, originally the balcony
for the church is not handicap accessible.
For movie times and information call (617)
734-2500.
Haymarket
Feeling creative? Visit the Haymarket on
Blackstone St. on Fridays and Saturdays
for the provisions necessary to prepare
the perfect romantic meal. The Market opens
at dawn on Friday and runs until dusk Saturday.
A variety of fruits, vegetables, and seafood
are offered and the prices beat any supermarket.
Even if you can't cook, the Market is fun
to visit for the lively atmosphere and frivolity
of the vendors. Pushing through the crowd
and haggling is part of the fun and the
delicious foods you take home will be well
worth the hassle. To get there, follow the
Freedom Trail
from
Quincy Market,
it takes you right to the Haymarket. Bon
appetit!
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Dating Secret: What Makes Men Fall in
Love
There's
into you, and then there's
head-over-heels gaga. These little
things tip single men over that edge.
By Cosmopolitan Photo: Tamara
Schlesinger Updated: Sep 4, 2008
Dating couple falling in love
It's a baffling dating question: Is
there some specific moment or event that
makes a guy suddenly decide "Yes, I
think I love her"? Well, the answer
isn't clear-cut, but there are some
general dating principles. "Men have
certain innate needs that must be met
before they truly feel connected to
you," says Paul Dobransky, MD, author of
"The Secret Psychology of How We Fall in
Love.
" When a
guy realizes, consciously or not, that
you're ideal on all these levels, that's
when he'll commit."
More Dating Articles from Cosmopolitan:
Boiled down,“guys have four primal
relationship desires that are sometimes
sated by the tiniest of dating moves by
you.” guys have four primal relationship
desires that are sometimes sated by the
tiniest of dating moves by you. Here,
experts explain with examples so you can
put these dating insights to use when
your guy is at the brink.
The Desire: To Protect
Believe it or not, the so-called stoic
sex is hardwired to nurture. Sheltering
you from harm makes him feel studly,
which makes him feel good. "Not that you
should act helpless, but letting him see
your vulnerable side will bring him
closer because it unlocks his instincts
to take care of you," says David Givens,
PhD, author of "Love Signals." So give
him chances to take charge, and thank
him after he does. When a guy associates
you with feeling like Superman, of
course he'll want to couple up. These
little things can draw out his hero
side.
Give him a job. Ask him to fix or build
you something. Performing concrete tasks
is a way of bonding that enhances his
sense of success.
Ask his opinion.
Whether
it's about your 401(k) options or the
best travel sites, it telegraphs that
you value his brain as much as you do
his brawn.
Wear soft materials.
Delicate
textures like rayon, silk, and faux fur
trigger an intense response in single
men. These fabrics accentuate your
softer, feminine nature, which heightens
his amorous instincts.
Don his clothes. It shows that you've
chosen him over other guys.
The Desire: Freedom
Even emotionally healthy single men want
assurance that their identities will
stay put after they've become half a
happy couple. "By making it clear that
you don't expect your guy to change,
he'll feel like you truly understand him
but don't threaten his sense of self,"
says Dan Neuharth, PhD, author of
"Secrets You Keep from Yourself." "That
leaves him feeling on sturdy enough
ground to commit." The following dating
moves let him know you're no ball and
chain.
Blow him off. Single men hate the idea
of being tied down socially, so turn
down occasional plans. He'll not only
feel easier -- and open up more --
around you, but he'll also start to
wonder what you're doing and pursue you
more.
Share your own fears.
“Guys often hold back because they think
most chicks are baby-hungry
ring-hunters”
Guys often hold back because they think
most chicks are baby-hungry
ring-hunters. So if you feel nervous
about committing, let him know. He'll be
reassured that you're navigating new
waters too, not trying to trap him.
Reinvent yourself. Little changes in
your appearance now and then -- say,
hair up in a ponytail one day, down the
next, etc. -- remind him that you've got
zillions of facets to your personality
too. Read: no rut risks.
Respect his privacy. A physical space
that's totally his is a huge symbol of
independence to a man. Signal that you
respect that by, say, staying out of
desk drawers and not peeking at his
caller ID when his phone rings.
The Desire: To Shine
Maybe he's cocky, but he's still
insecure. Trust us, guys need to know
that they're respected and appreciated.
"When being around you increases a guy's
esteem, both internally and in the eyes
of others, he'll naturally want to be
attached to you," says Dr. Dobransky.
Here, things that show your high value
and nudge him toward love.
Make him happier. Laugh when one of you
loses balance during an intimate moment.
Go to stupid movies. Drag him out when
he's crabby. If you can keep things
light, even during stressful times,
you'll become indispensable.
Be a social butterfly. Guys are good at
left-brain stuff, like sales and sports,
but can get awkward when it comes to
social graces. Take the lead and charm
the people you meet and he'll be extra
grateful to have you. But he may take
credit for making those new friends...
whatever.
Play mind games. Activities that require
mental prowess -- like Scrabble,
puzzles, and chess -- can prod his
passion. It sounds nuts, but proof of
your problem-solving abilities
subconsciously shows him you're a
desirable choice for carrying on his
genes.
Act like the grand prize. Seeing you
through other people's eyes reminds him
how special you are. Invite him to an
event where you'll excel (whether it's
karaoke or a fun run), or have him stand
between you and another man you think is
getting too close at a bar.
The Desire: Comfort
"Falling in love is a process of
developing attachment, which happens
when oxytocin floods the brain," says
Alan Hirsch, MD, neurological director
of the Smell and Taste Treatment and
Research Foundation. You can unleash
those love hormones by making him feel
like you two just "fit." When he's so
comfortable with you that he stops
thinking about your relationship and
simply enjoys it, he'll find himself
nudged into love territory. Take these
dating tips:
Let him see you primp. Grooming in front
of him enhances intimacy because it's
something other guys don't get to
witness. Just keep it goddesslike
(applying lipstick or powder), not gross
(bleaching your moustache).
Cook together. Being around food spikes
oxytocin levels in males. The more often
you prep dinner a deux, the more he'll
associate you with the good feelings he
gets from eating it.
Stock your pad.
When
buying groceries you don't have a
preference on, get a brand he uses.
He'll subconsciously feel at home at
your place. Catnap near him or let
yourself doze off in his arms so he sees
you in your most trusting, completely
relaxed state.
What Yanks Him Back from the Brink
Some factors can derail a guy who's
about to fall.
1) They Get a New Opportunity
A promotion often means spending more
hours at work. Instead of balancing that
with their love lives, guys tend to
prioritize their careers and believe
that a solid relationship will endure
the delay. So if something big is
brewing, he may hold himself back.
2) You Never Fight
Sure, guys hate arguing, but it's worse
if you don't react negatively at all
when he's screwed up. A guy will worry
that (a) you're going to lash out later,
(b) you're a doormat, or (c) you're not
into him enough to care. Any of these
will make him rethink your budding
relationship.
3) Pure Panic
Many single men worry that if they
commit, they'll have to give something
up -- friends, dart night, something. So
when a guy realizes he's fallen for you,
he may freak out and pull away for a
while. If you can weather his big-baby
behavior without reacting in a way that
confirms those fears, he should snap out
of it.
Reprinted with permission of Hearst
Communications, Inc.
